Are You Ready for Your Own Family?

As a girl, you must at least sometimes think about your own small family with the man you love and your kids. If you're considering getting married and don't know whether it's the right time, this guide is for you!

1. How long have you been dating?

Compared to dating less than one year before a marriage proposal, dating one to two years significantly dropped the future likelihood of divorce, about 20 percent lower at any given time point. Dating three or more years decreased the likelihood of divorce at an even greater rate, to about 50 percent lower at any given time point. This suggests that it can be helpful to have at least a few years together prior to entering a marriage, when you both can have enough time to know about each other.

2. Do you really know about each other?

One problem that can detour a marriage that seems to be headed in the right direction is the introduction of unexpected new knowledge about a partner. Do you know, for example, how your partner thinks about and values money, or how he or she would approach being rant? Learning more about your partner now could ward off some common sources of conflict later.

3. Are you mentally ready for IT?

Means, are you mentally an adult yet? Being mature doesn't always mean you're older, but it lies in the mind. Can you portrait yourself being a mom taking care of your kids and family, having lots of responsibilities and things to do? Can you balance between your work and current life, knowing that the marriage life will be much busier than that?

4. Are you financially ready for IT?

Yes, finance. Do you have enough money to build a family? Your savings in case you or your partner have any problems? Can you and your partner afford a house or something belongs to both and to look further, afford your children's future?

5. Do you have any current responsibilities to fulfill best without marriage?

Something is best done without having a marriage. For example, career. Yes, it's harsh, but if you want to focus on your career and want to go far, sometimes it's real hard to take care of your family and fulfill maternal duties. Or when you have to take care of your parents, which seems impossible when you have your own family. It's a trade-off and it sucks, but all we can do is to choose a priority and face the truth.